Choice vs Decision

Sometimes we believe the story that we need time to make an appropriate decision. Yet such a frame seems to be born out of and rooted in fear. The fear of knowing what we truly want. The fear of upsetting our parents or a friend. The fear of regretting the choice. The fear that we will be left worse off by the choice. The fear of abandonment. The fear of public humiliation. And many other fears.

But what is beyond fear, ever present and choiceless? It's the choice you know you must make in order to live in alignment with what is true. When we ruminate on a "decision," we often expend time and effort to create seemingly rational explanations for doing the thing that our intuition most wants us to do. Elaborate webs of convenient narratives that of course make sense! (see confirmation bias).

Then we convince ourselves of such stories, and we tell them to our parents, and the friend, and the waitress who served us so lovingly the other day at the local restaurant. Now the decision is really real indeed!

There is a certain general need for fewer words and more choices born out of choicelessness — real and, perhaps for this reason, not necessitating much explanation.