On business partnerships/hiring - Weekly Reflection #236

Dear Mat,

I am experiencing a quite significant burst of negative emotions throughout the body as if they’re gripping me powerfully and slowly letting me go and I surrender to them and reduce resistance. One feeling seems to be heartbreak for seeing the beautiful girl at the gym who complimented my squat some weeks ago and to whom I felt connected train with a boy and seemingly getting very close to him spiritually and consciously. For some reason this affected me—I experienced some degree of envy/jealousy/deep sadness for having “lost” the opportunity to deepen my relationship with her beyond that first small chat that filled my heart. It’s as if energy from the legs has been cut off for a while and I feel in a down beat instead of an up beat that I have experienced until yesterday for the past one or two months. It’s as if the world has collapsed a bit upon me and I am picking up the pieces with a deep sorrow. It’s interesting because this is certainly 100% my responsibility and no one else’s. I lacked the courage to speak to the girl in all those occasions when we were at the gym in the morning, and rightfully she looks for someone else thinking I am not interested. That’s how life works, duh. I think i can understand to some degree what heartbreak feels like and what young people go through when experiencing it. I am alone and weakened right now. I am strong and more resilient at the same time, and I can handle anything coming my way. All of this was compounded by hearing people gossip and talk negatively about me at the gym yesterday, which also felt like someone shook the whole platform where I was standing from behind suddenly. I love myself and I love all people. I wish myself well and so I do for all people. I let go of what doesn’t serve me and what is part of the past. I am fully involved in the present moment and handle any event with grace and judiciously. I am.

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On a different note, I concluded the course Successful mistakes in business on Peterson Academy, and one thing they mention in the course is how to successfully delegate work or find partners for the long term.

An investor once told me that one thing she looks for when analyzing startups to invest in is whether the founder(s) have a partner or solid circle of friends. It would be too difficult to navigate through all the challenges involved with building a company if there is no one supporting you, she argues. I’ve been thinking about how to establish business partnerships and what you look for in a partner.

One thing you look for in long-term partners is reliability and honesty. You want to work with someone who can tell you the truth, no matter what. You want to facilitate this behavior by leading with truth (i.e., displaying this behavior yourself) and inherently believing that seeking the truth is better than maintaining the status quo and avoiding the potential short-term burdens that come up when unveiling the truth of a situation.

You want to work with someone who can handle their workload effectively and deliver work within the expectations. Someone who has the courage to voice issues and possible mistakes as they arise along the way. You need to do the same, because you can’t expect something you don’t do from someone else. Relationships of any kind are two-way syncs. It takes sustained gentle effort from both sides to dance and get lost in it.

The reason you want this type of partnership is because there are many unexpected events happening around you, and unless you see them for what they are and resolve them with humility and conviction, your partnership and business may be standing in loose, shaky grounds and earthquakes compound until the ground breaks.

This can also be particularly fulfilling for the soul because it is not that common to find truthful, honesty-based relationships that last for a long time. We are complex creatures with many barriers preventing us from fully showing up with integrity. So, in a reliable partnership, you learn and grow together.