One blockage for some people is the unconscious fear of identity loss when change happens (if i don’t do this thing exactly like this, then …)

What if I don't make and drink coffee exactly the way I have done it for the past 25 years? The world around me would certainly collapse and my whole life crumble before me and be exposed to everyone else, shaming me.

The fear of identity loss is a real thing, it looks to me. We do many things the same way we do them all the time. Because it is convenient to not think about each step involved in making that cup of coffee. Because we were taught so. Because there is no time to be creative. Because change is scary. Because changing something about it would mean a recalibration of our identity.

One of the ways we get stuck is by doing things the same exact way all the time, and sometimes not even realizing it. We then may complain about how disastrous yesterday was, or how terrible today feels, and how hopeless the future seems.

And yet fail to notice that the self conceptualized as located in the head does not exist, does not need to rule our life, does not need to be heard all the time. And that there is novelty—the opportunity for novelty—in every single action and thought at any given moment which intersects fluidly the past, the present, and the future.

That's all there is to it. Everything always new. Nothing always the same. Change is welcome and facilitated with a humble posture of openness and wisdom.