Rhythms and pace

Suppose i enter a room to meet you, and you have been in that room for many years doing the same job of greeting people upon arrival. In that case, i can show up with a sense of urgency, not wanting to be seen, or with a sense of curiosity, desiring to learn more about you with openness and calm, or somewhere in between.

The two states will have different outcomes and interoceptive (internal) experiences.

In human interactions, there is a rhythm. Sometimes mellow, sometimes faster, sometimes somewhere in between.

When meeting someone, your and their rhythm must get in sync to experience an honest and fulfilling interaction. It can take some grooming and warming up, as is natural and certainly known in capoeira, salsa, bachata, and other practices that involve connected interactions.

Once the rhythm is in sync, then and only then can the space for productive conversations and movement spring forth.

I was at uluactive sitting in the reception, and there was in the background, noticing people entering and greeting the receptionist one thing that I noticed in the find interesting is the difference in pace and with them and states of being between the person who enters the gym or who exits the gym or ice bath or sauna, and the receptionist behind the desk For the wide majority interactions was a complete mismatch between the state of being the receptionist and the guest, the receptionist seemed bored with a bit of tension, frustration of always having to say, how are you without meaning it, but continuing to say, and then in between those very short interactions, the receptionist connects with the other people at the bar, the staff at the gym that passes around they say something they make jokes they laugh And I think that allows the receptionist to be seen to remain same in the midst of those empty interactions with us so less guests

Most of the guests passing through, appear to be a bit self-conscious of passing to the reception and having to answer how are you question which is a something that certainly fine with myself as well many times and they rushed through the process of answering good or how are you with a sense of rush that I certainly experience myself when sometimes not all these times sometimes I do and that I find pretty interesting to unravel

That also seems to be a fundamental difference to some degree between the staff member that the exception is for example, and the guest in terms of the system state the receptionist is in a parasympathetic state, relaxed, almost surrendered to the minutiae and formality of the job despite the fakeness surrounding them and how repetitive they are and how mindless they seem in doing those tasks again and again and again The guest on the other hand Seems to be in a sympathetic nerve state rushed self-conscious, not wanting to be seen and rushing through the reception in order to do something else

One thing that all of this makes me reflect on his how we can connect with people by sinking on the instead of being essentially I meet you where you are not physically but emotionally it’s deeper than the mayor physically meet. It is sinking the Ginga in capoeira singing the steps in salsa That’s metaphorically the concept. Everyone wants connection to something video or another connection happens when the Ginga is synced and game playing and both parties are fully involved in it and interested in it. They are seen and the other person clearly engages in the interaction and that fuels the motivation of the other person to continue and then both persons do this continue set of exchanges Beats for connection that when accepted and reciprocated create a beautiful dance of naturalness